My Thoughts

Hello, I am Terry's wife Kristi, I want to say that I have been with Terry for over nine years and I was there when his ex-wife started making up lies about him! That's exactly what they are just lies, Terry never touched his daughter's not once in a bad way he was amazing to them, they loved him so much to. His ex-wife is crazy, she even pretended to be pregnant , even though everyone new she had her tubes cut tied and burnt no chance she would ever get pregnant again but she tried. I would not doubt if one of her very many boyfriends she has had hurt the girls and she chose to pin it on there Dad. These girls live a horrible life all she cares about is money. She lives of her kids, child support, ss security for one, and she sells and buys pills. We have a beautiful family and home and want to share it with Kaitlyn, Hailley, and Savanah as well. This woman has done some crazy stuff, she ran over Kaitlyn when she was 6 while Kait was on her bike and left a scar on her arm, she used to drag the girls around by there hair, T.J. was her slave he cleaned, cooked, watched the girls all the time, she even bloodied his nose. The girls think that our entire family is bad but actually were a normal everday family.. Well we love You girls and always will no matter what..I just wish they new that we would offer them a good life with us..They even have a grandmother Joyce who loves and misses them.. They have missed out on many oppertunities as we all did.. This woman lied to the girls saying we tried to have Hailley arrested nope we just wanted proof that Kathy lets these kids treat there dad the way they do.. We know it's not them it's just her making them feel like that.. I know they have love for her and we understand that but Terry deserves the same there his kids to.. They call some piece of trash drunk woman and child abuser dad though... He went to prison and Terry never did cause it was all made up shit.. Girls wake up your mom has been lying to you and took you away from your dad and brothers... Well I could go on forever but I won't... WE LOVE YOU KAITLYN,HAILLEY, and SAVANAH VERY MUCH Love,  KRISTI LAJEUNESSE

The Result

The Tragic Result

Severe cases of parental alienation have the characteristics of being complicated in two ways. Combative parents duel with conflicting stories of "he said / she said," and make it very difficult to determine who is telling the truth. Brainwashed children often support the side of the offending parent with dramatic stories of how they have been abused by the target parent. As target parents argue their position, they often seem defensive even when they are telling the truth. Programmed children lose their own sense of reason and their ability to express their own choice in the matter. If the alienator is not contained, these manipulations of the child’s mind become the incubator of their own future psychological problems. These children have an altered perception of reality that is not in their best interest or in the best interest of society.
Unfortunately, in many cases, fully capable parents and their extended family and friends who love the child and would provide a nurturing and healthy family life are eliminated. Once the cutting out of a parent has occurred the child is left under the full care of the most disturbed and dysfunctional parent. These tragedies are played out in our family law courts daily.
Target parents find that normal methods of handling parental conflict such as mediation and therapy do not work. They are forced to appeal to a judge to make a decision that will enable them to continue to see their children. This is often an expensive and perilous path that rarely results in a satisfying outcome as few people, including judges, attorneys and therapists understand the nature of the problem.

Parental Alienation

"Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents.”    Dr. Reena Sommer

What Is Parental Alienation?

Parental alienation occurs any time that a parent, relative or friend speaks badly about another parent so that a child can hear what is being said. Alienating behavior may be mild, moderate or severe. All parents are likely to "lose it" and be inappropriate with their words around children, however, when there is a predominance of negative messages being communicated to a child, these messages can seriously erode the child’s psychological well-being. In severe cases of parental alienation, children are manipulated and brainwashed (programmed) into such states of confusion that their perception of events and people around them are severely distorted.

Parental alienation in its most severe form is a heinous form of child abuse and neglect. It is a dangerous manipulation of children’s minds to alter their perception of reality about another parent. The purpose of marginalizing this parent is that he or she has no means to be an effective parent or to cut that parent out of a child’s life entirely, called a parentectomy.

Conversation Between my two oldest girls on Facebook!!!!!! Kaitlyn and Hailley

Kaitlyn Lajeunesse
Guess im not going to kyles.)*: i fucken hate her she all ways lets me down and im never treated good, every things allways my fault and one day when i leave and never come back she will wonder why. So times i wish that i wouldnt have too go thro this agony.January 17 at 5:33pm via Mobile Web  (This was posted on Kaitlyn's profile) "This is what my girls go through!!!"

Hailley Lajeunesse
i hate you.
Kaitlyn Lajeunesse Are you tlking about mom?
January 17 at 6:30pm via Facebook Mobile
Hailley Lajeunesse Does it matter ?
Kaitlyn Lajeunesse Uh yeah and if it is her i feel the same and did u guys get into a fight in the car?
January 17 at 6:35pm via Facebook Mobile
Hailley Lajeunesse We didnt even fight . I just kinda sat there while she told me off.
January 17 at 6:41pm via Facebook Mobile
(This is what was posted on my Daughter Hailley's Profile)"This is what my girls feel about there mother"

Update

My Ex wife the mother of my three girls, was found for neglect about 8 months ago, as well as her husband. Her husband headbutted and abused my daughters leaving marks mentally and physically. And because it's okay with mom to like him they are willing to forgive this man who actually did hurt them.. There is a restraining order in place that says that her husband have no contact with my daughters. I found out that my daughters have been writing this man that abused them, because there mother puts in there head that he is bettering his life they believe her and condone his behavior. I contacted a child protective worker today and because they were told by my ex that I am a deviate they automatically believe her, with her showing no proof. For God sakes my own daughter's hate me for no reason but that of false stories there mother beat into there heads for years since they were small innocent little girls. Nobody through all this has ever thought that maybe this woman is mentally sick and because I left her and hurt her she was going to make me pay!!! She sure did, but she didn't only make me pay she made my innocent little girls suffer as well!!! I wish that something would give!!! There is a hole in my heart that will never be filled until my girls are able to see me without there mother tormenting them for it!!!! My middle daughter has actually wished me dead and that is a feeling I could never describe.. I LOVE MY KIDS all five of them, more than anything... I have been able to have a relationship with my two boy's and I love them dearly, but they suffered from my depression to.. I wish that I could turn back time, in 2002 when the girls mother left them and went to Vermont with some man for over a month, I wish I would have went for custody and kept them.. All three of my girls are depressed and angry and in all honesty they would be fine if there mother would have left them alone.... There mother takes Hydracodones illegally, and sells them my girls told there older brother this.. My girls are lost and confused and there mother won't let them breath and think for themselves!!! I just want my girls in my life, I'm done waiting... There mother is Sick and needs help desperately,Well that's it for now I can't stand to write anymore..

My Girls

Since 2004 I have been fighting to see my three girls!!! Their mother has been pounding in their heads that I am a horrible person!!! The last time I actually had my girls they were 3,6, and 8 and now they are 10,13, and 15. They now actually believe that I am the "MONSTER" their mother portrayed me to be!!! I love my kids with all my heart and the courts still to this day have done me no justice!!! I have been alienated from my daughter's, for whom I would die for!!! I also have two son's 19 and 7 and they love me dearly and we are very close!!! I have been in deep depression over this for so many years, people say " It will get easier" but it doesn't!!! I have tried almost everything but nothing seems to work. I want a relationship with my girls and I feel as if it's too late!!! My boy's have suffered through this all with me and to see the hurt in their eyes kills me and I can't fix it!!! If anyone who reads this has any ideas I am open for suggestions..